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Oct 16, 2023Liked by Eleanor Anstruther

Searingly written. I feel the emotions behind this post so powerfully right now. Being a parent is suffering--and joy--but also suffering.

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Oct 16, 2023Liked by Eleanor Anstruther

Oh oh oh. To be in such a position to think that. My heart hurts

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Me too

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This man’s words have haunted me too. Because in the interview, when he speaks, you can see he is filled with genuine relief that she died instead of being kidnapped. The horrible reality of his relief--that a father would be in a situation where his child’s death would so clearly be preferred over the alternative

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Yes. This. I've been haunted by it.

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Jan 29Liked by Eleanor Anstruther

I don't think I could do what you and other mothers do. I don't have the strength for all that worrying and anxiety.

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My wise and brilliant friend Lisa calls motherhood a handshake with the devil.

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How can humanity be so caustic with both it's growth and it's destruction?

Thank you for this piece. It is needed to connect what the news presents as black and white facts. While leaving out the humanity of what is real life.

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Oct 17, 2023Liked by Eleanor Anstruther

This cuts too deeply today. I don't have the words.

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As John Donne writes, your essays "batter my heart."

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Oct 16, 2023·edited Oct 16, 2023Liked by Eleanor Anstruther

You really pack these full, Eleanor Anstruther. I understand that yes, too.

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