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Nov 10, 2023Liked by Eleanor Anstruther

"I explained this: there are four responses to a traumatic event – fight, flight, freeze and faun - and which we choose is a matter of pathology."

This is the best explanation I've heard in response to the "why didn't you do something" question. I'm like that woman and have not experienced this but it makes sense. And is there any way of knowing which way you might go based on pathology so you can alter it?

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I think Pete Walker’s book on C-PTSD gives the best roadmap on this.

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Nov 3, 2023Liked by Eleanor Anstruther

And your anger. I have never had this happen but I felt it with you to a teensy degree. Oh how it must have been hard.

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Thanks Jo

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Nov 3, 2023Liked by Eleanor Anstruther

I'm sorry I'm filling your notifications. I'm starting from the beginning.

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May 26, 2023Liked by Eleanor Anstruther

Pillared

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Mar 22, 2023Liked by Eleanor Anstruther

These are films that need to be made.

Your real life stories, a thousand lives, interlaced with thousands more, her stories layed upon by histories. The blind eyes that are turned by mothers and the things they see in the future . All love to you.

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Thank you

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Mar 14, 2023Liked by Eleanor Anstruther

I am so sorry to hear it Em !! Amazing the different perceptions people can make up in the mind

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I’m loving it. Fill away. Being read is my favourite thing.

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